What is the Shadow Self?
The shadow self is the part of you that is negative in nature. It is broken. It is the part of you that feels like it doesn’t belong. It feels separate from your higher self. It is the ego state. It may be full of fear, anxiety, worry, doubt, blame, envy, anger and any other negative emotions.
All of us have a shadow self, even if it is just remnants of the shadow self. The shadow self can bring us into depression if we dwell in it for too long. The shadow self has a tendency to throw us off our goals and create dips in our vibration.
Its tendency is to create separation in our lives, or attachment to unwanted things.
How to Recognize One’s Shadow Self
One’s Shadow Self may be overt or it may be covert. It may be displayed out in the open or it may be hiding. Either way it is there and it is good to bring it into awareness.
Many people are afraid to confront their Shadow Self. Their Shadow Self is anchored deep inside the subconscious mind and attached through chains of justification.
1.) When we notice our emotions start to dip or go negative it is an indication that we are thinking from our Shadow Self. It may be that we have attuned or attention to something not in alignment with our higher self.
2.) When we start to talk about others in a negative light, it is an indication that we are coming from our Shadow Self. We may get a great deal of emotion self-righteous “juice” in “convicting” them in our own internal court, but this juice is rooted in our limitations. A truly happy person has no need to milk negativity.
3.) When we start to doubt ourselves after we have set a goal, especially if we have made the declaration of its completion, it is an indication of our Shadow Self speaking to us. Challenges are inevitable but how we deal with them is our choice.
4.) When we begin to blame ourselves beyond the threshold of necessary self-correction this can be an indication of the Shadow Self trying to take over. Self-blame leads to guilt, and guilt can drive one to sickness.
Benefits of Transmuting the Shadow Self
When one begins to loosen the grip of the Shadow Self good things start to happen. These can be felt instantly and also over time. These may even be permanent if they are truly transmuted from their core.
1.) Better Relationships is a very evident factor of transmuting the Shadow Self. The shadow Self has a tendency to attract and to hold negative people in our lives. When it is transmuted these negative people no longer have anything to “attach to". There is no more vibrational alignment with these people on that level.
2.) You feel lighter. Shedding of the Shadow Self has the effect of making one’s mental, emotional and physical body actually feel lighter in weight. This makes it easier to laugh and enjoy good times. It also makes positive emotions more readily available.
3.) You have more access to your Higher Self. The higher self is always there, but it is often covered up or diminished by the clouds of the Shadow Self. Transmuting the Shadow Self removes this covering and allows more light to shine in. With light comes wisdom, love and prosperity.
4.) Less tendency towards addiction. People often use drugs to escape the Shadow Self. Your higher being knows it does not belong in this sluggish, low-vibrational state and so it looks for a way out. Drugs seem to be a direct path, but they unfortunately come with all kinds of negative side-effects. Transmuting the Shadow Self leaves a person with feelings of elation, thus no desire for the substance anymore.
How to Transmute the Shadow Self
1.) The first weapon against the Shadow Self is Love, and in particular Self-Love. Giving one’s self positive self-affirmations and encouragement can get you used to good treatment. When you are being treated well, you will notice a difference when there is a contrast, whether this be from another person or from yourself.
2.) Forgiveness is the most powerful weapon against the Shadow Self. There are many layers that forgiveness can be effective. The great thing about forgiveness is that you can continue to use it indefinitely. Forgiveness can take time, or it can be instantly. One can choose to forgive one’s self on a deep subconscious level, or even on a superficial level. One can also choose to forgive others on multiple levels. Forgiveness allows us to return to our loving state. It is a beautiful thing.
3.) Surrender is another effective tool against the Shadow Self. Surrender can be done on a moment to moment basis, even mid-sentence. For instance, you could be in the middle of crucifying someone (verbally) then stop yourself and surrender the entire train of thought to the universe. Once one realizes that indulging in the “juice” of crucifixion only creates more negativity the value of surrender emerges. Surrender can also be done with thought cascades that are going in a negative spiral. Simply recognizing them then pulling off, surrendering them to the universe can be suffice.
4.) Re-Diverting Attention is another powerful modality towards dissolving the Shadow Self. While this technique won’t uproot deep seated traumas like Forgiveness can, it can lessen the effect of most of the Shadow Self. Changing one's focus onto the positive is very powerful. Since each time you indulge in the Shadow Self it becomes stronger, by using re-diversion one can cut its food and water supply causing it to wilt. At the same time more positive circuits are made leaving less room for the negative ones.
There may be a period after one confronts & transmutes parts of their Shadow Self when re-integration is necessary. One may feel disoriented and speechless, looking for new words that were once blocked by the shadow self. Remember that this is a good sign that one is truly on a path of transformation. Do not be tempted to go backwards!